I'll just assume that you aren't talking about 10 instances of one Sprite but about 10 truly different sprites.
It'd be easier if you had only one Sprite and 10 instances of that. But I don't know what your project is like so I'll just go with 10 different sprites.
Check my capx: https://www.dropbox.com/s/yzv62sremd7vv7i/CollisionFamily.capx?dl=1
(Just drag and drop every Sprite you want except the Blue Main Sprite)
EDIT: To answer you original question "How to select a group of Sprites from a family?":
Just put an event or a condition before the actions to filter the Sprites you want to apply the action to.
Every Sprite for which the conditions are true gets selected and the following actions are only applied to those Sprites.